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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

if you do a good thing for another just to make yourself feel better isnt that Hypocrite? its oke if you feel good about it but that should not be the goal, so IMO the best good dead/kindness is when you do something nice for some1 WITHOUT the intension of making yourself feel good

[–]wizzwizz4 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Or, you could simply adopt the strategy that maximises total "feel better", which includes doing things to increase "feel better" and feeling better about that.

Selfish altruism is only a problem if it's rare. If it's indistinguishable from selfless altruism (i.e. actually serves to make other people feel better) then I see no problem with it: the end justifies the means.¹


¹: I mean this phrase in a way different to the way many other people mean it: read it literally, please.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

your prob right, but not when some1 is really doing it to be populair for their ego to brag about it then its not oke, well i just dont like that but your right because even then some1 is helpt/benefits from that, but for me i think back about people- mostly girl-who ar nice to you because they think they have te be polite- prob. mostly because they were educate that way- and on the 1 hand its oke, but on the other hand i think its Hypocritica and sometimes you think that person likes me- because she/or he is alsways very nice to me- but then its all a fake, they only were nice because they think they have to be/or dont have the balls to be honest....so that i mean is hypocrite, i rather have some to be honest and say "i dont like you/or fack off"then some1 who fakes to be nice to you

[–]wizzwizz4 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That's not doing a good thing, though.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

think its the same, doing something practical or saying nice things to some1 , maybe in a world of materialistic greed people think its not, but for me theres not much difference

[–]wizzwizz4 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No, I mean… it ended up making you sadder, and that could easily have been predicted beforehand, so it wasn't nice.

[–]magnora7 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good quote.

Also the person most impacted by you NOT giving kindness is also yourself. We create our own story, and it's best to create a good one. One that we can be proud of.

[–]sawboss 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I find this quite agreeable. Just don't get too invested in the idea of your own goodness.

[–]HeyImSancho 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Somehow someway, the saying, 'all roads to hell are paved with good intentions', really comes alive with this post.