Hi there :)
I've relied on dating apps ever since the epidemic started and managed to meet a few girls throughout the last year (only casual dating because none of them wanted anything serious). I was cool with it for some time, but now I am really looking for something serious, but the problem is - no one seems to know what they want or they're not being honest..?
I'm quite an outgoing person so it's easy to chat with anyone, but every time I think we're building a great connection there, something happens. One girl seemed to be genuinely interested in me and stated that she was looking for a relationship but then her replies just got slower and slower. With another one, I chatted for about a week and I asked her out on a date, which she accepted but then postponed it a couple of times (obviously I didn't push for it later on). The third one was super into me (her words) when we met but after two weeks suddenly said that she wasn't looking for anything serious although when we first spoke she was also "looking for a relationship".
Does anyone have any advice? I just don't get it why so many girls either don't know what they're looking for on apps or are just being dishonest. At this point, I am starting to doubt anything anyone says to me on dating apps :/ And, unfortunately, I don't see another way to meet a lesbian IRL in the near future.
Edit: I know that ghosting, not messaging first / not replying, and such has become "normal" on dating apps, and I don't refer to those situations. I am wondering about those instances when things actually look really good and there is a connection for a couple of weeks/months but then suddenly it all goes wrong.
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