How many of you have bi friends irl?

submitted by ElectricSheep from (self.Bisexuals)

My only (known) bi friends are on the internet. The few I've known of in person didn't stick.

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[–]PeakingPeachEater 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I've known a couple of bi people, but I don't think I could consider them all my friends.

Had 1 bi man acquaintance in college...and 1 bi guy friend who was predominantly leaning towards opposite-sex attraction but had a HUGE crush on one of our mutual friends.

Knew 2 bi gals from a former job at a hardware store when I lived back in that particular city, one was my boss the other was a coworker. The coworker was old school bi and the boss was the type to say "I'm a big ol' dyke!" and "love is love" and seemed a bit...TQ+ ish...Also a stereotype of cheating on her partners with someone else(both men and women). I used to like her a lot(platonically) until I heard about the cheating thing and just how she handles stuff...Made me sad.

Then in current place I live/moved to, new an older bi women who was my former neighbour who got coked out a lot/was on heavy drugs and hated her current husband and preferred women...

Now, I just hear from "pansexual" coworker who calls herself bisexual/pansexual interchangeable. She says she's technically pansexual because she doesn't see gender and likes both trans & non-binary folks. She's a bit of a NotLikeOtherGirls™ type or OneoftheBoys™, yet talks about how she wants to wear a "slutty" dress to her wedding and how she loved sleeping around(mostly with women and she had a serious relationship with a man)...Okay, thanks stereptype, you make us look bad.

I guess a total of 6 people I knew/know that were bisexual with only 2 of them being men.

[–]ElectricSheep[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That's oddly similar to my own experience. The women I've known who called themselves bi were either true to the "I'm a ho" stereotype, or probably fooling themselves (it was so trendy lol) with just one exception. The one bi guy I've talked to in person was a pretty regular dude, but we had nothing in common so we just went our separate ways. I wish I could meet more but we all tend to stealth through those conversations, don't we.

[–]PeakingPeachEater 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, it's been difficult finding non-stereotypical bisexual people to be honest...or at least good ones in real life...Even that old school bisexual coworker was talking to me about threesomes and uh...I...am not interested...At least not with that coworker who didn't wash her hands ever and she is an ex-alcoholic but...still did some heavy drugs...Like why? Every bisexual I meet is into heavy drugs, part of the TQ+, or just bi guys I meet in passing/haven't really talked to them much.

The only reason I knew that those 2 guys were bisexual was because the college acquaintance was wearing a bisexual coloured bracelet and my nosy ass asked what it stood for(I already knew back then, but was nosy). Then for the college friend...He said that he's always liked women but confided in me how confused he was that he likes our mutual friend a lot. He never referred to himself bisexual, that was my guess since...He liked our guy friend even tho he was mutually exclusive with women foe the longest time.

I don't know if it's a coincidence or not, but both of those bi guys were creatives/music artists, so less concerned of being "hyper masculine" and more the type to be mellow and go with the flow. Might be an easy/easier way of finding out their bi...apart from them wearing bi colours lol.

I'm glad there are more gender-skeptic bisexuals online though at least---like you guys/gals. I'm fed up with TQ+ nonsense or boring bisexual stereotypes in real life. I honestly just want to be able to have regular conversations with bisexuals that I can relate to or have similar hobbies/interests...

[–]ElectricSheep[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Interesting! It's well studied that the LGB are more likely to be drug abusers / alcoholics, which is quite annoying to me as I don't have an interest outside of alcohol, and I hate weed. Coincidentally, I'm also a creative type who's not concerned with being "hyper masculine," and I frequently get told I'm chill to a fault. I wonder if there's a correlation?

I'm also glad there are sketpic LGB spaces online, because I would never find one in real life, and especially not in the areas I have access to. I'm an otherwise normal, monogamous dude who happens to be bi... I'm not interested in anything "queer" or "kinky," I'm uninterested in hookup culture, and I don't politically align myself with the community. I just want to be left alone. Crazy how that's considered to be a bad thing.

[–]mvmlego 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Despite attending college for four years, I've only met one openly bisexual person that I can remember. I got to be mildly good friends with her, and she broke the stereotypes. She was a rather soft-spoken bookworm who, AFAIK, was actually one of the few people in the friend group that stayed away from all forms of drugs, and I never got the impression that she was sleeping around at all.

Unfortunately, I think the stereotypes will persist for a long time because the more normal bisexuals just fly under the radar and are assumed to be straight.

I guess a total of 6 people I knew/know that were bisexual with only 2 of them being men.

Just so you know, 2 out of 6 isn't a statistically significant deviation from an even split.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, several.