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[–]scrubking 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I live in a bad city full of bad people and I have literally zero friends.

[–]Locke 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Nope, but I'm past giving a fuck about it.

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I only need two friends and a gf . All other people i interact with are only acquaintances or colleagues. I'm working alone mostly, except for teaching and this is exactly the way i want it.

I don't like to let anyone else into my personal space. There are some nice people i met at different universities i keep contact with to ping-pong ideas but it is not more than that. I wouldn't travel that far just to take a sneak peak into another persons life that changed over time possibly as much as mine did.

Since one of my friends is extremely good with people, i just don't feel the need to expose me or my people any more than i actually need to.

And to be honest: I never "fitted" in. But no fucks given about that any more.

What is normal actually ? I believe the people defining themselves to be "normal" are the actually insane ones bc. they believe in most of the bs. they force-feed them themselves in their so called "peer" groups.

I got to play around with my point of view on something at least three times, before i can actually move it. But as a trade off for this i never stop changing my POV on things that actually concern me. I develop myself with the development of my ideas, concepts and principles and i value a judgement derived from actual thoughts (that make a recognizable sense to me) waaaay higher than one derived from peer pressure. That is why i never liked "parties" and "smalltalk" and stuff like that. For me its like either we talk or we don't. Talking to just reassure / reassess our relationship is still nonsense for me. Or wasted energy, depends on how you look at it.

It is kind of the point of personal relationships, i actually put any effort in to keep them alive: I only invest this much time in people that can agree to disagree with me.